It is never too late to amend the ways you parent your child, especially when the methods you are using are not productive. The parents should not be afraid whether their children will change or not. The earlier you start, the better and faster the result. The character that you want to amend in your children will start yielding results the day you desire to start parenting more effectively and efficiently. Commencing may not be that easy, but there are tested and proven ways to improve and respond to your children’s character.
Ways to do it
Ø Firstly, focus on the change you want to see. Usually, parents do not know how to commence the change. Start from the character that puts the children in danger. Such habit may be physical or emotional. The habit may be hurting the child or someone else. Everything cannot be done at once. It must be one at a time. The parents are recommended to address the habits that go against the morals and values they desire.
Ø Identify the things you desire to change. Any habit that you think that is to be changed must be identified at first. Then, the habit can be broken down into smaller pieces and therefore addressed. While you break it down, offer some suggestions that include the morals and values you desire as solutions to the unwanted habit.
Ø Expatiate the change you want. In a calm manner at a good time, gently sit down with the child in question and explain the change to the child. Tell the child what he or she has done and its possible consequences for him and others. Then proceed to let him know how you feel and the best way to respond or what will be required of him/her in such situations.
Ø Define what your goals are to the child. It is not so bad to tell your child your desired goals. It will enable the child to see the end from the beginning. Help the child to figure out a plan that will help him or her to at any point in time recognize and remember these goals. At first, the child may not respond as required. As in, the child may look somehow worried or frustrated with your talks, but do not be dismayed. Stay calm and be persistent to continue to pass your message until result will be achieved. This will help a lot. It is proven and tested.
Ø Set the red lines, create motivation and consequences. As the child crosses the boundary, ensure that it does not go unpunished. Let the child no possible consequences. It may not be by physical assault on the child, but let the child so much thirst for change. Even if you cannot force the horse you led to the stream to drink water, but you can make the horse thirsty for the water. While there are consequences, give room for motivation so that the child can be encouraged.