Once the phrase domestic violence is mentioned, many people naturally think of men beating their wives. Some people do not imagine or think that men are also victims of domestic violence. The reason for this is obvious. Naturally, men are physically stronger than women. Based on this physical difference, it is generally believed that men are abusers. However, experience has shown that there are women that are stronger than their male partners or even other men. Today, women can engage in some tasks that are traditionally meant for men or difficult tasks which require strength and energy.
Besides, domestic violence is not only limited to physical injury or battering. It can occur in different ways. A woman can intentionally decide to avoid any sex intercourse with her husband in order to punish him or deny him food. This denial is a form of domestic violence. Using abusive words that keep somebody in pain is also another form of domestic violence. In other words, there are different ways through which men can be abused or subjected to pain by their female partners. It is therefore wrong to think that only women are victims of domestic violence or to limit domestic violence to physical abuse only.
What is male domestic violence?
Male domestic violence is a type of domestic in which a man or boy in an intimate or romantic relationship such as dating, cohabitation, marriage or in family relationship is subjected to violent act or various kinds of abuses. It can occur both in a heterosexual relationship and gay relationship.
Determining the instance of domestic violence in a heterosexual relationship
It is always highly difficult to determine cases of male domestic violence because of the following reasons.
· Cultural influence
As it has been mentioned, it is traditionally considered abnormal for a man to be abused by a woman. In some culture, such a man is best regarded as a weakling. Owing to traditional and cultural influence and rejection of such acts, some men who are abuse by their women prefer not talking about it to letting people know that they are abused by their partners. They are not willing to ask their relatives for help or go for counseling because of fear of being regarded as a weakling or the shame associated with it.
· Impartial treatment by criminal justice system
The impartial treatment by the criminal justice system or the police is another reason why some men who are abused by their partners do not like making any case from it. It has been discovered through studies that women who abuse their partners are mostly favored by the security agents. The probability that security agents will not arrest such women is high. Owing to this reason, some men who are violently treated by their women prefer not reporting the case to security agents.
A study also discovered that women who abused their husbands are in most cases regarded as victims of abuse rather than abusers. Their male partners are instead treated as the abusers rather than victims. This impartial treatment is not intentional but it arises from cultural influence as explained above.